
Wouldn’t you know it? I have all sorts of little “ism’s” about life. You know…. theories… or postulations about how things work.
A lot of these revolve around the whole “Full Circle” deal. … .. or whatever it is you like to call it. Some people say “Karma” and others say “What goes around, comes around.” How ever you slice it…. the fact of the matter is… you still have bread.
One of these little quips of mine is called the “Tricky Ricky.” I am pretty sure I’ve told that story here before, but maybe I will revisit it again soon.
There is one I thought about a whole bunch of times today. It is the Delvin MacGruder.
You see, Delvin started out much the way any of the rest of us. He came out head first and crying like a baby. But something happened with Delvin, and by the time he was about seven years old… he was a pretty mean kid.
He would bully the others in his class. He would call the kids “stupid” or “worthless.” He would tell them they stunk.
As a result, Delvin didn’t have too many friends. Like….. Zero. This only made him madder and sadder. He would resent other kids who had fun, and who had a lot of friends.
Unfortunately, this continued. When he was in high school, he had turned into quite a handsome young man. But…. as they say… you can’t judge a book by its cover. He was still pretty lousy to people on the inside.
A good athlete… in both prep school and college, he would take all the credit. The great catch. The big hit. And on and on.
He married. Not happily. He was mean to his wife too. They divorced.
He spent most the rest of his life, working as a janitor. Cleaning up others messes… day in and day out.
So life went on, and Delvin turned out to be indignant, aggravated, and bitter.
I met Delvin in a nursing home. He told me all about this. He was alone as alone could be. No visitors. No loved ones. But as I looked around the room, most of the other residents were in the same situation. No visitors. No friends. Yet, I knew for a fact, that so many of the other old people living here were very nice, kind hearted people, who had families. They were loving and thoughtful in their lifetimes.
So I asked Delvin…. “Well, Del. It looks to me like everybody here is in the same boat. No matter what has happened before. So. With that said…. Would you do anything different?”
He answered very quickly…. “I would be kind.”
“Why is that Delvin?” I countered.
“At least that way… I could visit good places in my mind…. I would have happy memories. And more than anything, I could hold on to that love in my heart.”
And that…. is the Delvin MacGruder.
“Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness.” ~Seneca
“Don’t wait for people to be friendly, show them how.” ~Author Unknown
“Don’t be yourself — be someone a little nicer.” ~Mignon McLaughlin